The Art of Femininity
Inside every woman, is a crazy girl. And we all know what I’m talking about. That part of you that is entangled with insecurities, fears, and absolute insanity! The art of femininity lies in the molding, pounding, and defeating of that crazy girl on a daily basis! Look at any woman, and you’re looking at a woman fighting a daily battle, wielding her weapons in war, every day! I have said it before and I’ll say it again: it is never easy being a woman! And if we could only pound that crazy, insecure girl out of ourselves, it would make such the difference! C. Joybell
The art of femininity is being able to decide who you want to be and go be that. It is not enough to mold your existence based on societal standards or traditional precepts; being a woman is about defeating the voices that tell you that you are not enough, it’s fighting the battles of insecurities prescribed by looking at others, it is about fighting the war of your mind daily, and liberating yourself from self-doubt and discouragement. It’s the belief in who you were made to be.
Being a woman is beautiful, it awards you the superpower to create, to mold, to conceive, to be intuitive, to have enough strength to hold up your home and family, and enough strength to walk away from hurt, pain and things that no longer serve you but also enough meekness to nurture and care for the people in your life and circle.
You should be proud of that woman, the woman that scaled when others prophesied doom, the woman that found her happy place in the most unusual places, be proud of the woman that wakes up daily to fight for what she believes in, the woman that stays up late to watch her tribe go to sleep; be proud of her.
You have a voice, use it. You have strength, express it.
Inside every woman, is a crazy girl. But the weapons are out and YOU fighting for the win! Absolutely nothing can stand in your way now! You’ve been taught to be silent and to hide. But your silence won’t save you, it won’t make you more desirable, it won’t make you more submissive; your silence will reduce your ability to be seen and heard, it will stunt your growth, and keep you miserable. If you are unhappy, speak out. If you are being mistreated, walk away. You are not meant to sit in silence and accept a life that threatens your sanity. Love yourself enough to evolve, love yourself enough to walk away; forgive yourself, appreciate your journey and above all be kind to yourself.
A seasoned woman is spicy. She has been marinated in life experiences. Like a complex wine, she can be alternately sweet, tart, sparkling, mellow. She is both maternal and playful. Assured, alluring, and resourceful. She is less likely to have an agenda than a young woman—no biological clock tick-tocking beside her lover’s bed, no campaign to lead him to the altar, no rescue fantasies. The seasoned woman knows who she is. She could be any one of us, as long as she is committed to living fully and passionately in the second half of her life, despite failures and false starts. | Gail Sheehy