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The Art of Femininity

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Inside every woman, is a crazy girl. And we all know what I’m talking about. That part of you that is entangled with insecurities, fears, and absolute insanity! The art of femininity lies in the molding, pounding, and defeating of that crazy girl on a daily basis! Look at any woman, and you’re looking at a woman fighting a daily battle, wielding her weapons in war, every day! I have said it before and I’ll say it again: it is never easy being a woman! And if we could only pound that crazy, insecure girl out of ourselves, it would make such the difference!  C. Joybell

The art of femininity is being able to decide who you want to be and go be that. It is not enough to mold your existence based on societal standards or traditional precepts; being a woman is about defeating the voices that tell you that you are not enough, it’s fighting the battles of insecurities prescribed by looking at others, it is about fighting the war of your mind daily, and liberating yourself from self-doubt and discouragement. It’s the belief in who you were made to be.

Being a woman is beautiful, it awards you the superpower to create, to mold, to conceive, to be intuitive, to have enough strength to hold up your home and family, and enough strength to walk away from hurt, pain and things that no longer serve you but also enough meekness to nurture and care for the people in your life and circle.
You should be proud of that woman, the woman that scaled when others prophesied doom, the woman that found her happy place in the most unusual places, be proud of the woman that wakes up daily to fight for what she believes in, the woman that stays up late to watch her tribe go to sleep; be proud of her.
You have a voice, use it. You have strength, express it.

Inside every woman, is a crazy girl. But the weapons are out and YOU fighting for the win! Absolutely nothing can stand in your way now! You’ve been taught to be silent and to hide. But your silence won’t save you, it won’t make you more desirable, it won’t make you more submissive; your silence will reduce your ability to be seen and heard, it will stunt your growth, and keep you miserable. If you are unhappy, speak out. If you are being mistreated, walk away. You are not meant to sit in silence and accept a life that threatens your sanity. Love yourself enough to evolve, love yourself enough to walk away; forgive yourself, appreciate your journey and above all be kind to yourself.

A seasoned woman is spicy. She has been marinated in life experiences. Like a complex wine, she can be alternately sweet, tart, sparkling, mellow. She is both maternal and playful. Assured, alluring, and resourceful. She is less likely to have an agenda than a young woman—no biological clock tick-tocking beside her lover’s bed, no campaign to lead him to the altar, no rescue fantasies. The seasoned woman knows who she is. She could be any one of us, as long as she is committed to living fully and passionately in the second half of her life, despite failures and false starts. | Gail Sheehy

Stacey is an incredible woman, who despite the odds, started her journey of entrepreneurship after ending a relationship, going back to school, traveling the world, and sadly losing her younger cousin. The team at Designed Life are incredibly happy to share her story as a woman who found her voice, found herself, and decided to live her dreams.

Who inspired you to start your business AND your WHY:

I remember barely being a flickering spark of myself, after getting out of that relationship – at age 38! I felt so alone, and lost, after being torn apart by his parents because of my nationality and age, dating in secret, and after he eventually told me I’m easy to manipulate. I didn’t see the double life he was living. I wanted someone to stick up for me, to fight for me- blinded by wanting to prove myself and find my worth in him and his family. It all goes back to that time I was 12 years old, and that horrible grade; it was the first time I did poorly on a test. I was used to getting 90% or higher, my own disappointment was no match for how I thought my mom felt about it. I figured she must’ve thought I was stupid; unknowingly, I set out to spend the rest of my years proving I’m not stupid, proving I’m good enough, trying to live up to high standards. Quitting my job to travel around the world to 19 countries for a year, wasn’t enough to prove I’m enough. Nor was graduating from my second bachelor’s degree at the top of my class.

So there I was, picking up, and carefully placing my broken pieces back together. For two years, I rebuilt, reshaped, and relearned who I am. I delved into personal growth, took in all the teachings I could find, attended events, connected with like-minded people, took on a new position at work, and before you know it, I found me again. I realized I don’t need a relationship to give me worth, I don’t need to prove myself to anyone, I am capable, courageous, strong and imperfectly perfect the way I am. But I still longed for more in my life. I knew I had a calling to serve humanity, and didn’t know how or where to start.

It was there – in the dark conference room, in 2017, thousands of miles from home, on the first day, in the second row, right in front of the main speaker, and founder of the organization, in my glory, soaking in every word he said, where my answer came to me. My phone was vibrating off the hook, and when I finally picked it up, and read the words that almost stopped my heart, made me want to burst out crying, and closed in the room around me, I had an instant to make a choice, a choice I had to live with for the rest of my life. Would I stay or would I go? My younger cousin Casey back home had died, she had taken her own life.

It was that moment I decided to stay at the conference, to learn, grow, and become the best version of me! I saw my younger cousin struggle, I saw the darkness she lived in;
I thought, that could’ve been me! I remember those days I was diminished to nothing – I remember thinking I didn’t want to be here anymore. I decided at that moment I was going to go out there and shine my light, so others did not have to live in the darkness Casey lived in!
We don’t have to wait until we get into despair before we change our lives before we see the beauty and importance and possibility in life! That is when I made it my mission to work with women, to empower them, uplift them, help them build confidence, and instill limitless possibility! An empowered woman can change the world!

What mantra do you live by?
“If they can do it, I can do it”

 What mindsets made you successful?
a) I don’t allow myself to believe that anyone is above me, and that I can’t accomplish what others have accomplished. I don’t think there are superpowers that only a chosen few have. I believe we’re all equals and have the same ability to create our dream life, IF we are committed, dedicated, and work for it. I view the accomplishments of others as proof that it can be done!

b) Also, remembering, from my trek up Mount Kilimanjaro, that one baby step at a time will get me there! Slow and steady progress can move us up mountains!

Where does your passion come from?
Dancing, traveling, and people! My passion for traveling has taught me so much about people, perspective, what really matters in life, and seeing the big picture. The majority of this world lives without – are living in poverty, but have the most beautiful outlook on life. They have so little, but are so happy! I’ve learned so much from locals in developing countries I’ve traveled to. It’s so fulfilling and enriching for me to learn about people from all cultures, backgrounds, races, etc., what matters to them, what causes them to behave the way they do, and to understand them. My passion is learning about others, which is a vehicle for me to express and spread compassion and kindness.

What is your superpower/ how do you use it?
Asking really good questions! Most of my life I’ve been told I ask too many questions, and now I can see it as my superpower because I ask questions for a very specific reason – to gain understanding or to help others gain insight. When my clients tell me I’ve asked a question they’ve never been asked before, I take such delight, because, I know it will start the wheels turning, and bring them closer to a breakthrough. We all have the answers inside, we just need some help finding them – and that’s what a well thought out question does!

Business name:

Stacey MacKinnon; (Online Program: Confidently You)

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Leading Ladies

Ladies lets Talk!

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Can I talk to the ladies? I need your attention for a second. Women, I understand we love to give of ourselves to others, family, spouses, children, friends, etc. We keep giving and giving until we are spent. The beauty of a woman is how full her heart is to take in and take on love even for strangers and her ability to give. And thats awesome but please give yourself time to be refilled and pour into yourself. It is impossible to pour from an empty cup, so you must take sometime for you.

We are often overworked, underappreciated, tired, and sometimes frustrated. The journey of womanhood must be enjoyed and not endured. You must find time for “you” and put “you” first.

Ladies, it means taking time off to relax, letting your husband’s take care of the kids so you can rest, it means asking for help when needed, it means finding activities just for you so you can unwind. It is only when you are filled that you can truly give of the abundance of your soul.
You are awesome and can do it all things but take sometime, some hours, or days… Just to breathe.


The role of women in society has evolved. Now, we have other choices than being a homemaker; we have the same rights to obtain an education, join the business environment, and share the same legal rights with men. Although this social change is the best thing that has happened to all women, new issues have arisen. Women are leading more stressful lives because not only did we join the workforce; we also have to juggle the house and kids at the same time. A typical day for today’s woman would consist of going to work, ensuring everyone in the family is taken care, ensuring that the household chores get done in addition to extracurricular activities, PTA meetings etc. Whew! I am already tired by just thinking about it. In other words women are leading more stressful lives than ever. This is not good because stress affect us entirely. It clouds and slows down our thinking process and puts a lot of weight on our bodies. The results are unclear communication with others, malfunction in work/school, irritability, tiredness, etc. As you can see none of the symptoms caused by stress are positive. Therefore, it is best to avoid it. You are probably thinking avoid stress? Yeah Right! And I am here to say that you probably cannot avoid every single mishap but there are simple actions that can help reduce some of the weight on your shoulders. This can be achieve by managing your time correctly, involving your family and much more. Below I have added ten tips that can reduce your stress level.

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1. Do you have too many chores at home- If you have a partner and children then you can divide the chores. You would be amaze but even toddlers can help by putting away their own toys.
2. Buy organizers- Organizers in my opinion are a necessary tool. With both sexes working outside of the home, there is not that much time to maintain a tidy home. However, if you have organizers this definitely helps you reduce the amount of clutter in the house. The end result: A put together home.
3. Keep track of your time- Yes, planning ahead does help. Once you know what you want, plan what you need to do and state exactly when.
4. Have room for mistakes- Nothing is ever going to be perfect. So, do not beat yourself up over and over again. Instead, rise and use the negative experience to your advantage by learning from it.
5. For people that cook daily- Reduce the amount of times that you cook in a week. You can cook for two days at a time or cook various meals in one day for several days. Just make sure that the food is stored properly. It is advisable to freeze the prepared food until; you are ready to use it.
6. Have a daily or weekly to-do list- Let’s face it, with so many things in our heads it is pretty easy to forget what you need to do.
7. Pay for cleaning services- If you cannot delegate different chores to others and have some cash to spare then, pay someone else. If you can not afford full service then pay for part of the chores. Pay a kid from your neighborhood a couple of bucks for raking your leaves or mowing the lawn.
8. Use the internet to your advantage and reduce shopping time by buying things online. Even some supermarkets are offering this service.
9. Lessen the time spent on unproductive activities- Including talking on the phone, watching TV, chatting, social media, etc. You can do them but make sure that you do not talk for three hours or watch five different TV shows in one day etc. Activities like this do nothing but, waste time that you could be used productively.
10. Leisure time- Always try to enjoy your life, set time to do activities that you love to do or interest you. It’s simple when we have fun there is no room for stress.
Remember life is just a whole bunch of moments put together so; do not waste them.

Until Next,
Kenia Morales



When Oprah Winfrey decided to take responsibility for her life she never looked back. She moved ahead. What two new decisions could you make to move you ahead? She exhibited a tremendous change in her thoughts years ago when she decided, never again. Never again will I settle for less than I can be.

Stop right now and think of a moment of ecstasy. Something that gives you ecstasy. Make the picture bigger and brighter. Make the sounds clearer and louder. Now, make the feelings more intense. How good do you feel? This is called the mind-body connection. The mental side of it all. This is more powerful than you could have thought.

Mother Theresa

Most people think Mother Theresa started off this wonderful, compassionate person. She didn’t. She started a school teacher, one day walking down the streets of Calcutta she had an experience that little did she know it would change her life forever. She heard the cries of a sick man. She desperately tried to get him to a hospital, and at arriving at the first hospital was told they wouldn’t treat him because he was too poor. She pleaded with them that he was going to die and needed attention. Still, they refused. She took him all the way to a second hospital. There she was also told they wouldn’t treat him. She pleaded again. Finally, she went to a third, they refused also. Finally, the sick man died in her arms. She made a decision right there. As long as she is around, no one would suffer unnecessarily. These simple actions changed her life. Now she has left a trail of influence.

Photo by Shashank Sahay on Unsplash
Photo by Shashank Sahay on Unsplash

In Science

Doctors in ancient Egypt used feces on wounds. We now know this infuses the wound with bacteria, but back then it was accepted beyond a shadow of a doubt because that’s what everybody believed. Doctors used to prescribe a common drug called “DES” to pregnant women. Now we know it causes birth defects, and thousands of women are seeking damages for genital cancers and inability to conceive.

People believed the world was flat for hundreds of years, everyone believed it was flat, they were certain about that. How absurd does that come across to you now? Since a gentleman named Christopher Columbus sailed around the world and pointed out it was round, now everyone believes its round. Most people do what the majority does.


On December 1st, 1955 a fiercely determined young black woman named Rosa Parks refused to give up her seat to a white woman. Little did she know at the time, this one action would lead to steps that would change the future for years to come.

Stop and decide right now who you are committed to being, to take yourself to the next level. Decide right now that following through on this is an absolute must for you. Then work on living that truth; better yet, START NOW and see your life in a new light and carry on accordingly. Becoming a woman of distinction is possible and certainly something to look up to.