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Do you need to let go? What would you enjoy changing in your personal life? What ambitions are you aspiring to, but aren’t doing because of preconceived notions or a set of conditions that are damaging the way you think? What are you harboring that you recognize isn’t for you any longer? What relationship has stopped you?

What huge change are you putting off? Are you feeling more solace in distressed familiarity instead of delving into alien territories? What vocation changes, possibly even an overall change of direction, may bring about more gratification?

Letting go is merely arriving at a decision – no more allowing something from the past tense to influence your life today or to cut down your inner sense of peace and welfare. So all you have to do is to relinquish the beliefs and mental attitudes that keep you from receiving the pleasure of the moment. The issue comes in discovering precisely what that means; we have so many notions that keep us from living in the present moment, from becoming content and peaceful inside.

A daily decision and dedication to making positive thinking top priority is critical. It’s neither the win nor the loss that makes an individual victorious, only the beliefs and perception one has concerning self. Favorable perception and self-affirmation is the opening move to personal empowerment.

Life is a series of selections of how to act. Frequently we make these choices mechanically, without truly being cognizant of what we’re selecting or why. But regardless of what anybody does in any facet of their lives, it’s still a choice they’ve made.

So start to learn how to let all your life become one big let-go experience and then see what happens next. Allow every day to unfold for you not as you’d choose but to show you your true nature.

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Not Guilty!

Great words to hear when you are in trouble, anticipating jail time. Don’t know what that feels like though; my closest to the courthouse was when I went to get married.

But in this game called life we are always confronted by a cloud of witnesses and are constantly being judged by what we do or don’t do. We are constantly weighing our lives on a balance and trying to measure up.

People judge people! That’s what we do. We look at a persons appearance and judge how much they have in their account. We look at a person car to determine how successful they are… There is constantly a battle to prove to people we are worth something, we are constantly working on being APPROVED by others.

Life can get tiring when we are constantly trying to get people to like us, approve of our lifestyle and choices. We can forget the joy of living if all we do focus on what others think of us and how people see us.

I decided a long time ago not to be defined by what others say or think about me. When you are not constantly trying to please others you can truly live the way I believe God intended… free, unstoppable, and unwavering. Have a great week ahead.

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I Am Fine Thank You.

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I’m fine thank you! ???

That’s the usual response we give as humans when asked “how are you?”
That’s the response we give even when things are falling apart. We smile and play the part even when we want to scream or cry.

There have been days when things weren’t going my way. When I was worried or sad about certain things but I had to play a role of a SuperWoman. Today I’m reminded that:

PERFECTION IS AN ILLUSION!

Nobody is without pain and no one is immune to sadness. We all have moments of uncertainties, doubt, brokenness, disappointments.. It could your job, business, marriage, finances, health, relationships, legal.. No one has it good all the time.

These days I am more real with my life’s journey and share with those closest to me when I have my moments of pain. Its okay to let others know that your life isn’t perfect because their lives isn’t as well.

Seek help, ask for prayers, get advice, encouragement, counseling…etc. Its okay to admit when things are falling apart because most of the time they are falling into place. You are not alone! You are not fine but you will be soon. Do not be ashamed of your pain, allow it to be a fuel to push you higher. I’m rooting for you!

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The role of women in society has evolved. Now, we have other choices than being a homemaker; we have the same rights to obtain an education, join the business environment, and share the same legal rights with men. Although this social change is the best thing that has happened to all women, new issues have arisen. Women are leading more stressful lives because not only did we join the workforce; we also have to juggle the house and kids at the same time. A typical day for today’s woman would consist of going to work, ensuring everyone in the family is taken care, ensuring that the household chores get done in addition to extracurricular activities, PTA meetings etc. Whew! I am already tired by just thinking about it. In other words women are leading more stressful lives than ever. This is not good because stress affect us entirely. It clouds and slows down our thinking process and puts a lot of weight on our bodies. The results are unclear communication with others, malfunction in work/school, irritability, tiredness, etc. As you can see none of the symptoms caused by stress are positive. Therefore, it is best to avoid it. You are probably thinking avoid stress? Yeah Right! And I am here to say that you probably cannot avoid every single mishap but there are simple actions that can help reduce some of the weight on your shoulders. This can be achieve by managing your time correctly, involving your family and much more. Below I have added ten tips that can reduce your stress level.

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HERE ARE 10 WAYS TO LIVE A STRESS-LESS LIFE
1. Do you have too many chores at home- If you have a partner and children then you can divide the chores. You would be amaze but even toddlers can help by putting away their own toys.
2. Buy organizers- Organizers in my opinion are a necessary tool. With both sexes working outside of the home, there is not that much time to maintain a tidy home. However, if you have organizers this definitely helps you reduce the amount of clutter in the house. The end result: A put together home.
3. Keep track of your time- Yes, planning ahead does help. Once you know what you want, plan what you need to do and state exactly when.
4. Have room for mistakes- Nothing is ever going to be perfect. So, do not beat yourself up over and over again. Instead, rise and use the negative experience to your advantage by learning from it.
5. For people that cook daily- Reduce the amount of times that you cook in a week. You can cook for two days at a time or cook various meals in one day for several days. Just make sure that the food is stored properly. It is advisable to freeze the prepared food until; you are ready to use it.
6. Have a daily or weekly to-do list- Let’s face it, with so many things in our heads it is pretty easy to forget what you need to do.
7. Pay for cleaning services- If you cannot delegate different chores to others and have some cash to spare then, pay someone else. If you can not afford full service then pay for part of the chores. Pay a kid from your neighborhood a couple of bucks for raking your leaves or mowing the lawn.
8. Use the internet to your advantage and reduce shopping time by buying things online. Even some supermarkets are offering this service.
9. Lessen the time spent on unproductive activities- Including talking on the phone, watching TV, chatting, social media, etc. You can do them but make sure that you do not talk for three hours or watch five different TV shows in one day etc. Activities like this do nothing but, waste time that you could be used productively.
10. Leisure time- Always try to enjoy your life, set time to do activities that you love to do or interest you. It’s simple when we have fun there is no room for stress.
Remember life is just a whole bunch of moments put together so; do not waste them.

Until Next,
Kenia Morales

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It’s time to stop being a victim and start being an active member in your own life. Invest in your choices, in people and in your time. Imagine you are driving a car and you feel no need to steer the wheels or engage the gears, would you reach your destination?
What if you don’t know where the destination is?  Does that mean you should leave the car to drive itself? Definitely not! Even when the path is unclear, you still need to make concerted effort to stay on the road.

Stay on the road!

Investing ensures that you do not drift aimlessly. Each time you identify a cause to pursue, a place where your passion is executed, you have a chance to participate in the future. Investing keeps you anchored to a course and helps you stay aligned long enough to determine where the right path is. You can always switch path if you are on the road but that may be hard if you leave your life’s vehicle to just drift and swerve aimlessly.
Invest in what?

This is not just about money and how you spend it.

It’s also about the people you associate with and where you spend the larger chunk of your time. Keep these three in mind:
1. Time

2. People

3. Energy
If you can invest the three listed things above in the right places, you are more likely to come out stronger and better. You have a greater chance of participating in your growth and shape your own future. Living a designed life involves active participation in your own life.

 

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8 Tips to Save Money on Groceries

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The average family’s grocery bill is usually one of the higher numbers on the family budget. There can be an enormous difference in what each family spends on their groceries, depending on many factors, such as whether they buy organic, kosher, Gluten free, more meat, etc.

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The good news is that this allows for a large amount of savings if we decide to be frugal with our shopping. Following a few simple tips will have you well on your way to saving a few bucks.

1.) Make a meal plan. You’ll know exactly what you need from the store before you go.

2.) Watch for specials and coupons in store newsletters, and plan your meals around them.

3.) Make a list and stick to it. If it’s not on the list, don’t buy it.

4.) Don’t shop when you’re hungry. That way you won’t be tempted to buy things that you don’t need.

5.) Shop alone. Count on your bill being higher when you bring your spouse or children.

6.) Only buy things you know you’ll use. For example, if your family doesn’t like broccoli, don’t buy broccoli in the hopes that they’ll eat healthier this week.

7.) Keep your eyes on the items on the bottom shelf where the prices are lower.

8.) Buy store brands when the quality is the same. Most of the time, it actually is the same product in a different package.

It’s pretty easy to be frugal once you realize how much money you’re actually saving with these simple steps. Keep a log of your grocery bills, so you can see how much of a difference you are making.

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Recently, a classmate of mine walked up to me beaming with smiles. “Hi dear, I would like to inform you about my wedding coming up in October. I know it is still months away but I just want to ensure you are carried along.”

Of course, many congratulations and hugs came up as I received the news. It was great news that finally, someone from our class was getting married. It also brought to mind many other friends, in different courses, who had gotten married or were also about to.
It was interesting and also a bit sobering.

I wondered, did they really enjoy the single phase of their lives? Did they find fulfillment in those years of being independent and alone? Or were they so occupied with life and the scurry to walk down the aisle?

The Hustle 

I once mentioned to a friend that marriage is not compulsory. His response made it seem like I just blasphemed. He is not alone in his school of thought. That school of thought that considers marriage the highest form of fulfillment and a do or die affair. I am not anti-marriage but I am not hinging my life on ensuring I get married at all costs. Neither should anyone.

Marriage is beautiful and so is all that comes with it; spending your years with that person you delight in so much, having a great home, wonderful kids, growing old together and being loved. Awesome! Caution though! This picture should not be so highly exalted in our minds that we cast a dark and dull luster on our bachelorhood and spinsterhood.

Being single is amazing if you make it so. It is that period when you can discover yourself, engage in life building activities and make friends, connections, real life world wide webs that always come into play later on.

This is the time to explore the world or at least places you have never been to. By yourself. Not waiting till there is someone else who may or may not be excited by the things that excite you on these trips.

Self-Evaluate First

Also, ask yourself, what am I bringing to the table of marriage if/when the time comes? This applies to both male and female. A holy writ talks of iron sharpening iron. If you are made up of just wood and you are looking for iron, I wonder what sort of sharpening is to be expected.

You want someone mature? Be mature!
You want someone financially stable? Be financially stable!
You want a funny person? Find your humour!

These things and others are done and gotten while single and even though they can continue when one is married, a foundation built while single will go a long way to make things easier and better. You have to also realize that it is that ‘YOU’ from your being single that you are carrying into the marriage. Yes, there are opportunities for upgrades but that default operating system still holds some sway.

So, while you are single, live life. Fully. This does not give a license for a reckless life.
Make life count! Being single is part of life, make it count!

 

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