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Stacey is an incredible woman, who despite the odds, started her journey of entrepreneurship after ending a relationship, going back to school, traveling the world, and sadly losing her younger cousin. The team at Designed Life are incredibly happy to share her story as a woman who found her voice, found herself, and decided to live her dreams.

Who inspired you to start your business AND your WHY:

I remember barely being a flickering spark of myself, after getting out of that relationship – at age 38! I felt so alone, and lost, after being torn apart by his parents because of my nationality and age, dating in secret, and after he eventually told me I’m easy to manipulate. I didn’t see the double life he was living. I wanted someone to stick up for me, to fight for me- blinded by wanting to prove myself and find my worth in him and his family. It all goes back to that time I was 12 years old, and that horrible grade; it was the first time I did poorly on a test. I was used to getting 90% or higher, my own disappointment was no match for how I thought my mom felt about it. I figured she must’ve thought I was stupid; unknowingly, I set out to spend the rest of my years proving I’m not stupid, proving I’m good enough, trying to live up to high standards. Quitting my job to travel around the world to 19 countries for a year, wasn’t enough to prove I’m enough. Nor was graduating from my second bachelor’s degree at the top of my class.

So there I was, picking up, and carefully placing my broken pieces back together. For two years, I rebuilt, reshaped, and relearned who I am. I delved into personal growth, took in all the teachings I could find, attended events, connected with like-minded people, took on a new position at work, and before you know it, I found me again. I realized I don’t need a relationship to give me worth, I don’t need to prove myself to anyone, I am capable, courageous, strong and imperfectly perfect the way I am. But I still longed for more in my life. I knew I had a calling to serve humanity, and didn’t know how or where to start.

It was there – in the dark conference room, in 2017, thousands of miles from home, on the first day, in the second row, right in front of the main speaker, and founder of the organization, in my glory, soaking in every word he said, where my answer came to me. My phone was vibrating off the hook, and when I finally picked it up, and read the words that almost stopped my heart, made me want to burst out crying, and closed in the room around me, I had an instant to make a choice, a choice I had to live with for the rest of my life. Would I stay or would I go? My younger cousin Casey back home had died, she had taken her own life.

It was that moment I decided to stay at the conference, to learn, grow, and become the best version of me! I saw my younger cousin struggle, I saw the darkness she lived in;
I thought, that could’ve been me! I remember those days I was diminished to nothing – I remember thinking I didn’t want to be here anymore. I decided at that moment I was going to go out there and shine my light, so others did not have to live in the darkness Casey lived in!
We don’t have to wait until we get into despair before we change our lives before we see the beauty and importance and possibility in life! That is when I made it my mission to work with women, to empower them, uplift them, help them build confidence, and instill limitless possibility! An empowered woman can change the world!

What mantra do you live by?
“If they can do it, I can do it”

 What mindsets made you successful?
a) I don’t allow myself to believe that anyone is above me, and that I can’t accomplish what others have accomplished. I don’t think there are superpowers that only a chosen few have. I believe we’re all equals and have the same ability to create our dream life, IF we are committed, dedicated, and work for it. I view the accomplishments of others as proof that it can be done!

b) Also, remembering, from my trek up Mount Kilimanjaro, that one baby step at a time will get me there! Slow and steady progress can move us up mountains!

Where does your passion come from?
Dancing, traveling, and people! My passion for traveling has taught me so much about people, perspective, what really matters in life, and seeing the big picture. The majority of this world lives without – are living in poverty, but have the most beautiful outlook on life. They have so little, but are so happy! I’ve learned so much from locals in developing countries I’ve traveled to. It’s so fulfilling and enriching for me to learn about people from all cultures, backgrounds, races, etc., what matters to them, what causes them to behave the way they do, and to understand them. My passion is learning about others, which is a vehicle for me to express and spread compassion and kindness.

What is your superpower/ how do you use it?
Asking really good questions! Most of my life I’ve been told I ask too many questions, and now I can see it as my superpower because I ask questions for a very specific reason – to gain understanding or to help others gain insight. When my clients tell me I’ve asked a question they’ve never been asked before, I take such delight, because, I know it will start the wheels turning, and bring them closer to a breakthrough. We all have the answers inside, we just need some help finding them – and that’s what a well thought out question does!

Business name:

Stacey MacKinnon; (Online Program: Confidently You)

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Website: www.staceymack.com

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Finding Purpose

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For years I wondered what my purpose was. As a multitalented individual I often found myself constantly changing and evolving. I have several streams of income and numerous passions. But for years, I wasn’t exactly sure which one gave me the most joy until I turned 40.

As this year comes to an end and a new decade begins, I am thankful for all the opportunities life as availed me.

I had spent my 20s and 30s trying to figure out my place in this world, trying to measure up to a certain standard. I spent my entire 30s trying to find my purpose. It dawned on me this year once I turned 40, that my purpose is to help other people find their purpose. My purpose is to guard, guide, and lead others to their place of purpose, their destiny, and their calling..

This next decade is for me to live out loud, to walk in that purpose, to sing and dance to every tune the universe plays. To lead, to give, to express myself through my art and creativity.

This next decade will be to live fully for God, family, and myself, to speak my truth, to share of myself, to give unselfishly, to love, to explore, and to grow.

Nothing beats knowing who you are, and walking in it unapologetically. In the coming year, LIVE OUT LOUD; explore your passions, dance to your music, and find your purpose.

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Never Stop Dancing

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I have seen women shrink from the best versions of themselves to a shadow because of a sour marriage. I have seen men silenced by women who lack the ability to caress their soul into greatness. I have watched children transformed into dummies by angry parents who weren’t ready to have them. I have seen men and women alike shutting down, becoming depressed about their journey. I have witnessed dreams die because the carrier stopped dancing.

What am I saying? When you stop dancing, you die, and you kill everything that’s in your path. Whether you know it or not. As beautiful and grand some flowers are, they can also kill. Gabrielle Roth wrote this amazing piece that explains it, “In many shamanic societies, if you came to a shaman or medicine person complaining of being disheartened, dispirited, or depressed, they would ask one of four questions.
When did you stop dancing?
When did you stop singing?
When did you stop being enchanted by stories?
When did you stop finding comfort in the sweet territory of silence?”

So my question to you is when? There is always a “when”. I remember the first day I decided to stop dancing… I was hurt by a statement made by a friend and I decided to stop living my purpose. It took me years to get over it and to start dancing again. So today I’m encouraging you to dance, to sing, to be enchanted, to live your purpose. Do not let what people say change who you are, do not stop dreaming because of a few disappointments. Do not let an heartbreak make you hate men. Do not let a failed business stop you from dreaming. Do not allow people to change you. Keep dancing to the tune of your own rhythm.

Have a great weekend.

 

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I know that sometimes it is hard to admit mistakes but is it not liberating when you do so? Does it not feel like a burden has been lifted off your shoulders and you can finally walk freely?

Everyone makes mistakes. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Without mistakes, a lot of people will not be where they are right now. There are quite a number of entrepreneurs who took risks at various investments that never once paid off but they got to learn important lessons and develop valuable skills. They may have gotten too disappointed to try again but they remained resilient despite how their decisions turned out. Mistakes are not limitations. They are not only meant to expose our weaknesses, they also highlight our strengths. It is what you do after you have made a mistake that counts.

Mistakes could mean the end or the beginning for some people. Their outlook about life as a whole can be traced all the way back to their first mistake. Did they learn from it? Did they sulk from being scolded? Did they quit? Did they limit their mental picture to their failings?

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Take for instance a cup has two ends-the open end and the closed end. What side are you looking at? How do you view your mistakes? Do you see it as the end of your life, you know, like there is no way out-case closed or do you see it as another opportunity just presented itself? Are you willing to try something new? Are you receptive to new ideas or have you already concluded that nothing can work?

Some people think that mistakes diminish them compared to other people who never seem to have made mistakes in their lives. They see themselves as inferior, as failures and unworthy but I dare say, that is all in the mind. The mind is a powerful place. If you cannot control it, it will ruin you.

What do you give attention?

When we pay too much attention to what we hear people say, we regurgitate on it until it becomes a part of us then we begin to doubt our own voices and when we doubt ourselves and our abilities, it affects our choices. This goes on and on until it becomes a lifestyle. It takes a positive force on the inside to break that cycle.

Do yourself a favour. Stop paying too much attention to negative reviews about your life or ideas. It will kill you before you even start. These negativities will always be there and they quickly multiply on the outside. You have to be able to harness the power within if you want to navigate through life. You will make mistakes but that is not the end. Capitalize on the knowledge you gain. For as long as you are alive, your cup remains open. Pour in only the good stuff.

Cheers to the good life.

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