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Meet the spunky, and effervescent entrepreneur, Alice Dartnell and how she uses her life experiences to help encourage and coach others on living their best lives.

What or who inspired you to start your business

Since I was a teenager, I always knew I wanted to have my own business. I can’t pinpoint what it was, but I just knew. My plan was to go to university, get a good job and have a successful career until 35, and then start my businesses. I think I had this notion that you had to have qualifications and a good career before you ventured into business. We all know that is not true though, but that is what I thought at 15. However, despite my immaculately well laid out plan, things didn’t work out that way anyway! After losing my job at the end of 2018 (I was 32), I thought why am I waiting until 35? Do it now!

Whilst I always knew my business would be about helping people, it wasn’t until 2016 that I knew what my main business would be.. I went to a two-day coaching introduction course and instantly things clicked – this was it! A business where I would help people, and it turned out I was naturally really good at coaching. Since then I have continued my training  and in 2019, I set up my own coaching business. 

I will explain later where the passion for helping others came from, but essentially is was because of my past battles and experiences.

What habits help make you successful

Habits make success! I truly believe it doesn’t matter on your background, education, bank loan or how motivated you are, what success boils down to is simple habits. Whether your goal is to be more productive, get healthy or start a business, it all boils down to your daily habits! Small simple things you do that seem inconsequential at the time, but they are either going to take you one step closer or one step further away from your desires.

My success habits personally are:

  • Forward planning and diarising my to-do tasks otherwise they never get done. You have to block out time to get stuff done!
  • Making my health and fitness a priority. Without that, you can’t be successful – you won’t have the energy! I make sure I exercise 4 times a week, don’t eat processed ready meals and meditate every day.
  • Constantly looking for the learning in whatever I do. That way, whether it goes right or wrong, I know I am learning from it. This helps me progress and detach from any outcomes that weren’t what I was hoping for!

 What was unexpected when you started your business?

Everyone says how hard, time consuming and bank-draining starting a business is, and they are not wrong. But what most people fail to share is what goes on inside your head! I call this the “mind f**k”. Brash I know, but that is what I felt – sure I can learn new skills for my business but what really caught off guard was all the internal chatter in my head. The unconfident voice popping up saying “you sure you should be doing this?”, “what are you playing at, little old you can’t pull this business thing off etc.

When I was younger, confidence and self-worth didn’t come naturally to me – I was severely depressed, used to self-harm and suffered an eating disorder for 9 years. I have really had to learn to become confident, happy, and believe in me.

Having also gone through experiences that have really toughened me up and improved my resilience, I really thought I had a rock-solid mindset – so having these doubts and wobbles of self-belief and negative self-talk really took me surprise! This has just taught me even more about the power of the mindset and being confident. I understand how crucial it is for empowering to become you want, do what you believe and live a designed life!

What does it mean to live a designed life?

For me, having a designed life is about living with purpose, doing the things that make you happy/fulfilled and reaching your potential. Too many of us live a life we think we should live, or one that we think is expected of. But conventional doesn’t always mean right! A lot of people aren’t happy and feel stuck on the hamster’s wheel.

Personally, my designed life is about adding value to others, having fun and always learning. Those are my driving factors in life! If an action or activity doesn’t fall into those three, then I don’t want to do it!

These days I love to fill my designed life with serving others through my coaching business and my side business with Arbonne, useful content, training and workshops, travelling, being creative, keeping fit, trying new things, enjoying the small things in life etc.

What life lessons shaped you? How have they impacted on your life or business?

When I was younger, because of my depression, eating disorder and relationship issues with my mum, I lost so much time being sad, hating the world (and me) and crying myself to sleep. I would spend hours obsessing and crying, blaming others, and constantly anxious. I was in ‘victim mode’, telling myself “things would be better if…”

I used to be filled with regret and “my life would be OK if only…” but then it started to dawn on me… This is time I will never get back, BUT I can use it to make the rest of my life amazing.

My experiences over that decade or so massively impact me today, but in positive ways now rather than as low points or regrets. It has made me so happy and grateful for life as I can now appreciate how good it can be, and also that I am 100% in control. Whatever happens to me, I am not a victim unless I chose to be. . It made me want to reach my potential and with that, help others too. This is where my passion for coaching comes from. I KNOW we all have it within us to reach our potential, but we often hold ourselves back. My mission is to help others reach their potential, reach their version of success and live the life they want!

Sometimes when I am feeling down I look back on that period of my life with remorse but then I realise it has gotten me to where I am today and what I am doing in my business now!

What is your super power/ how do you use it

When I was younger, I was that annoying kid in school that teachers hated because I would always ask “why”. I questioned everything! I had this incessant need to know the why behind everything, rather than just the how or what.

Whilst this probably made parenting me difficult, it has made me an excellent coach! My ability to question things has allowed me to help my clients see things differently – we question their status quo and ‘personal stories’, so we can re-frame situations, they have more control and are empowered to make change.

This has also massively helped me see things from other people’s perspectives – a “what would I feel if I was in their shoes” mentality is a great superpower to have too!

About Alice…

Hi, I am Alice.

I empower people to reach their potential, creating long-lasting change and transformation.  I am a trained life and success coach. I offer private 1-2-1 coaching sessions, host events, blog and support corporate organisations wanting to improve workplace well-being and productivity with personal development training.

My passion to help others comes from the observation that life can be amazing but too many of us are not reaching our potential and living the life we want to live, whether that is in our careers, business, health, wellness, personal goals, etc. I know this from experience too as I was one of those people! Setbacks such as depression, an eating disorder and self-worth issues held me back for a long time.

So, I am on a mission to help people reach their potential and reach success whatever that looks like for them.

I specialise in empowering people in:

  • Overcoming their own limitations, fears and hurdles
  • Time management and productivity
  • Goal setting and planning
  • Forming positive habits
  • Improving confidence and self-belief
  • Developing a Success Mindset

The outcomes of working with me include gaining a sense of control and clarity, creating a new perspective and reframing issues, self-discovery, able to make decisions, getting unstuck and creating lifelong transformations. As a neuro-science geek I love helping clients understand what makes them tick and why their “brain is not their friend” as I always say. When I am not helping others, my passions are travelling, learning languages, baking, fitness, reading and art.

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Lakia is an avid business owner who is passionate about making an impact with the creation of her ventures. She created Mixed Chick Sorority, a business with several facets which caters to multiracial women. Read about her business and what makes her unique in her own words.

What or Who inspired you to start your business?

I was inspired to start my business because of my experiences working with bosses from hell. This gave me the drive and ambition to start my business ventures, and I haven’t looked back since. 

How do you develop Key partnerships?

I develop key partnerships by, working with the right businesses. Building solid partnerships create a win-win situation for both businesses. Key partnerships build a business and enable cross-promotion, which results in sales.  

How did you get funded or what creative strategies did you use to execute on minimal cash flow?

 Funding can be very challenging for businesses, I used my own money, to establish my business ventures. 

What habits helped make you successful?

Being passionate and dedicated has assisted me greatly with my businesses. Without passion for what you do, you are most likely to give up when things get tough. I am extremely passionate about my entrepreneurial journey. 

How do you distinguish yourself from your competitors?

I feel like, there’s no competition. I look at my business and how I can improve, then create strategies to enable positive change. 

What was your biggest mistake?

No mistakes were made! 

How do you deal with failure and how do you learn from failures?

Everything I’ve experience serves as learning. 

What was unexpected when you started your business?

Before starting my businesses a woman said,’’ Lakia, you own a business’’? This was unexpected; especially since I’ve always encouraged and also uplifted my fellow women.

 What did you learn?

I learned not to expect too much from others, over the years I also realized that women can be “Haters”; however, I don’t allow it to bother me. 

What would you have done differently?

Wouldn’t do anything differently. I believe everything happens for a reason.

How can you minimize the unknowns?

I walk in faith, with God, doing so, brings light to the unknowns.

What advice would you give inspiring entrepreneurs?

My advice to inspiring entrepreneurs is to make sure they have a passion for whatever business they are venturing into. Passion is what will make you stay up late, wake up early, and daily work on your venture. Secondly, be dedicated to your business, be focused on what you are doing and don’t be distracted. Never listen to people, who don’t believe in your endeavors. For those of you, who believe in God, always remember that God is with you every step of the way and with any decision you make. If you keep faith in God, He won’t let you fail. Rather God will continuously keep you successful.

What does it mean to live a Designed Life?

My definition of living a Designed Life, is to plan plus achieve a life you don’t need a vacation from and a life you love. Lastly, a Designed Life is a purposeful and intentional life.

What impact do you want to have on the world or change you’d like to see?

The impact I want to have is to, simply inspire others. Who want to fulfill their goals and dreams. I want to also leave a legacy.

What makes your business/product unique?

All my business ventures cater to the biracial and also the multiracial community. In the history of America, no other businesses were bold enough to establish these kinds of business ventures. Rather people are in denial, that biracial and multiracial person exists. 

 Describe yourself in one word?

Feminist

What mantra do you live by?

You only live once, make it count!

What habits and mindsets made you successful?

Being dedicated to all I engage in.

What life lessons shaped you? How have they impacted your life or business?

Living experiences with my parish, family, friends, personal relationships, co-workers, ex-bosses, former professors or collaborators. All have shaped me, as a person. These people have either made a positive or negative impact on my life.

Where does your passion come from?

 My passion comes from, what I love to do.

What makes you smile?

Knowing that every day, I do my best.

Breakfast, Lunch, or Dinner?

I love food, so breakfast, lunch or dinner.

Describe your happy place

Being at peace in life!

What makes you Unique?

I’m very stubborn and will work at it till it’s done.

What is your superpower/ how do you use it?

My superpower is getting things done. Once my mind is made up, nothing can change it. I use it to give me the confidence, to get goals plus dreams achieved.

Finish this statement, A WOMAN IS?

A person who follows her dreams, who is independent and doesn’t need to rely on a man. 

How are you living out loud?

By living my childhood dreams. Also, I’m fearless with my life.

What drives you?

Knowing life is short and we’re only here once.

How do you plan on living lavishly in the next decade?

I plan to live lavishly, when I retire.

Lakia Shavon Lightner-Padgett

Mixed Chicks Sorority Incorporated https://mixedchickssororit.wixsite.com/college-sorority

Mix Race Love Magazine https://mixracelovemagazin.wixsite.com/website

Mixed Television Network https://mixedtn37.wixsite.com/website

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My name is Amanda Hard I am a local artist based out of Maine. I create empowering paintings of abstract women, to uplift and bring self-empowerment. My paintings are inspired by women, from all over the world, all walks of life! My paintings are for the young, old, weak, bold, regardless of their strengths, color, gender, and orientation. ALL women are my inspiration! Growing up as a female in this world has its challenges. I felt like there was always an image of who or what a “girl” should be. I always wanted to be able to relate and reflect on the struggles and beauty women hold within themselves. Women are so beautiful independent and articulate! I wanted to express a women’s life, journeys, passions, love, loss, failures, strengths, the ups the downs, careers, backgrounds! We are different colors, shapes, sizes, and so much more!

This was the inspiration that led me to start my “Girl Series”. I started creating paintings when I was going into college trying to figure out who I was as a woman. I wanted women to have a chance to relate and admire different parts of who they are, as I did while embracing who I was and I am as a woman. My mission is to give everyone a chance to escape through my paintings. I wanted to share as much as I could with everyone around me, so I started printing my images and “Girl Series” on Art prints, home decor, accessories, and apparel for women to incorporate their “Girl” in their day to day lifestyle. From beach towels, pillows, handbags, to make up purses, backpacks, coffee mugs, and so much more! So whichever lifestyle and type of girl you are, you are my inspiration!

What or Who inspired you to start your business?
My Brother. He’s always told me to put my art online, I out it off for so many years not listening to my big brother, but one day I LISTENED! I never knew or thought people would enjoy my artworks so much! He’s always supported me and pushed me to share my art with the world. I couldn’t do it without his knowledge, guidance, support and brotherly love.

How do you develop Key partnerships?
Stay in touch! Always keep communication open and prompt. Balance your partnerships out with partners that balance with you.

How did you get funded or what creative strategies did you use to execute on minimal cash flow?
Budgeting! It’s not easy! Especially being a girl! We want the latest fashion, makeup, and lifestyle trends, but when running a business you have to make a budget and only spend what’s necessary. Help fund your passion and business and in the end, your business will help fund you.

What habits helped make you successful?
Staying Constant. Keep going. Be persistent.

How do you distinguish yourself from your competitors?
I feel like everyone has their own individuality. I don’t look at others as competitors. I just look at them to learn, grow and build my own business!

What was your biggest mistake?
Not listening to my brother and starting earlier! (He’d be smiling reading this!)

How do you deal with failure and how do you learn from failures?
I don’t believe in the would Failure. If it’s not in the cards for me at that time then I keep going, keep moving forward and keep growing. If you stop to think you are failing it will distract you from prospering!

What was unexpected when you started your business?
The amount of love, support, and interest in my art! It’s a surreal feeling!

What did you learn?
So much! I’m constantly learning!

What would you have done differently?
Since starting my business I wouldn’t have done anything differently. I’ve learned from everything I’ve done. Whether it was beneficial or not I learned what to do and what not to do. Without making mistakes you can’t learn and grow from them.

How can you minimize the unknowns?
Through Experience

What advice would you give inspiring entrepreneurs?
Give it time!! People want instant success, but it takes time, patience and perseverance.

What does it mean to live a Designed Life?
A life defined by your passion. Waking up every day and going to work for yourself, knowing you can provide for your family through your love of work.

What impact do you want to have on the world or change you’d like to see?
I’d like to bring into this world self-love, Inspiration, and smiles. There’s so much complication in this word, I just want to keep it simple and enjoyable.

Describe yourself in one word?
Kind

What habits and mindsets made you successful?
Stay Positive. Never Give Up. Make healthy choices that will make you prosper, physically and mentally.

Where does your passion come from?
My heart

What makes you smile?
Seeing people enjoying my art. Bringing happiness and empowerment into people’s lives!

Breakfast, Lunch, or Dinner?

Breakfast

Describe your happy place
My Home

What makes you Unique?
We are all unique individuals. I am ME and that’s what makes me Unique!

How are you living out loud?
Through my Art and Empowering others!

What drives you?
My family, my friends, and the people around me.

Instagram business page – @pennyprints4you
Instagram artist page– @misspennyprintss
Facebook– Penny Prints
Website – www.penny-prints.com

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Eleni Sophia is 21 year old author and entrepreneur from London, UK. Having published three books, she is now the founder of her own publishing house Perspective Press Global. A publishing house specialising in publishing works of motivation and poetry for those under the age of 20! Eleni Sophia writes poetry, encouraging young women on the importance of self-love and the power of their mindsets. We caught up with Eleni for a candid conversation about her passion for writing.

What or who inspired your love for writing?

I normally write based on personal experience. A lot of the time I hear, ‘but you’re so young! How do you know all this?’ I truly believe ‘experience has no age’, we all go through things so we can learn, evolve, grow and help others- this makes the world go around! Also, funny enough, the definition of my name is wisdom!

How did you come up with the idea for your book?         

I wrote my first poetry collection after my first heartbreak, I was constantly feeling hurt and it hurt me, even more, knowing other young women possibly didn’t have anyone else to relate to. I took the chance and published ‘Good Morning to Goodnight.’ A poetry collection guiding young women through a process of healing throughout my poetry and teaching them the power of their mindsets!

What motivated you to become an indie author? 

My first ever heartbreak! Funny how beautiful things can flourish from the ‘worst situations.’ I was constantly writing on the ‘notes’ section of my phone so I compiled everything together in a book of poetry so I could help fellow young women possibly going through the same thing.

Is there anything you find particularly challenging in your writing?

Writers block is a big one! I normally get random ideas at 3 am and this can be so interruptive to my sleeping pattern! But again, writing is something I love so I wouldn’t necessarily say its ‘challenging’, rather it’s nice to let out all emotions- very cathartic indeed 🙂

Did you come across any specific challenges in writing your book? What would you do differently the next time? 

Well I’ve published 3 now and I’d say writing my second book, ‘Perspective by Sophia Dearest’ was a tough one; this one is not poetry, rather, a self-help book. I talk a lot about the power of faith, and I simplify the law of attraction- again, a very controversial topic and a lot of research had to go into the book. It is not everyone’s cup of tea, so it literally is one of those ‘you love it or hate it’ kind of books! It has its niche.

What inspires you to get out of bed each day? 

I’ve always been self-motivated, and I adore the quote, ‘be the change you want to see in the world.’ Knowing I have a platform where I can use my voice to impact and empower so many young women all over the globe keeps me going 100%. Also, receiving messages from people who have read my books and knowing the impact I am having, is just phenomenal!

Do you remember the first story you ever read and the impact it had on you? 

It wasn’t much of a story, but I love reading self-development books so ‘The Secret’, 100%  Sounds cliché, but it changed my life; knowing I am the creator of my reality, wow! I’m so grateful to have discovered it so young!

Do you remember the first story you ever wrote?

Actually yes haha when I was 11- I had won a competition so a short story of mine was published in a young writers book here in the UK- it was completely fictional and a story about how my mum and I went to Dubai and ate loads and ‘shopped until we dropped!’

Tell us about your writing process and the way you brainstorm story ideas.

Honestly, I cannot sit in one place and write, it’s so strange- my mind goes blank! I normally get ideas at the most random time-so they’re mostly written in the notes section of my phone!

Where is your favorite place to write? 

Normally in my bedroom; if an amazing idea comes to mind at 3 am, I grab my phone and start typing away!

Any advice for aspiring authors?

I often get a lot of messages asking me this question. Honestly, just go for it! Stop self-doubting yourself; once you believe in your work, nothing else matters. It is similar to self-love, I say in my book, ‘This One’s for You’ the love you have for yourself sets the foundation for all your other loves. It is similar to self-belief, once you believe in your work, everyone else will too! Take that leap, if you never try, you never know!

What does it mean to live a Designed Life?

I’m a firm believer in the law of attraction so I have to say living and manifesting an amazing life on your terms through the art of visualization and affirmations 🙂

 

Find more snippets of her work on her Instagram here:

www.instagram.com/eleniisophia

Good Morning to Goodnight 1st poetry book:

https://amzn.to/37v9wCv

‘This One’s for You’ 2nd poetry book:

https://amzn.to/2rRnhMy

Perspective Press Global:

https://www.perspectivepressglobal.co.uk/submissions

Linkedin:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/eleni-sophia-8a0506128/

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I lived the first 40 years of my life in Minnesota learning to endure the cold winters as well as dealing with the adversity of being a two time cancer survivor,  divorcee, going through a bankruptcy and losing my home, then losing my mom to suicide in 2017. At that point I decided I had enough of what Minnesota had to offer and I made a move down to sunny Florida! After a few months of soaking up the sunshine, my 20 year old son asked if he could join me and my daughter Piper, to which we happily agreed.  Quintin had been battling a drug addiction and his commitment to live a healthy and sober life down in Florida was music to our ears. Unfortunately this was not to be his fate. His Minnesota family and friends decided to throw him a going away party and what he intended to be a “last hurrah” was in fact his last hurrah. Quintin died of an accidental drug overdose on July 8th 2018.

Since his passing, I have been able to walk through a supernatural healing process and share his life story and message of hope with so many! While I would much rather have both my mom and Quintin by my side here on Earth, I am so thankful for the strength, growth, and new clarity their passing has provided in my life. My life is now dedicated to encouraging those in recovery and those affected by trauma and loss to keep moving forward and grab hold of all the gifts God has for them! Now, I use the lessons and skills learned during this intense season of grief to help others navigate through loss in an intentional and productive way.

What does it mean to live a designed life?

For me, it means being in control of what you are creating and allowing in your life. You know who you are, what you want, what you deserve, and what you are capable of doing and you are daily taking steps to become the fullness of all you were created to become.

What impact do you want to have on the world or change you would like to see?

I would love to see a world where people are not entrapped by their past or claiming a victim mentality from hurtful things that have happened to them. A world where we all commit to continual healing and growth and use every experience to that end.

What is your why?

My why is twofold: First of all, I feel responsible to pass on a message of hope and healing because it was a similar message that saved me from the depths of despair and I now feel compelled to pay that forward. Secondly, and certainly no less important is to turn what was meant for evil to good. To build a legacy on behalf of my mother and son who both died from drug overdoses.

Describe yourself in one word?

Fearless

What mantra do you live by?

Your past doesn’t define you, it prepares you.

Describe your happy place?

My happy place is on a beach near a small town surrounded by friends and family.

What is your superpower and how do you use it?

I am not afraid of the future or death. This makes it easy to take bold risks and say yes to things that most people wouldn’t consider.

What drives you?

Wanting to make a difference in the world and create a legacy, my mom and son would be proud of.

Learn more about Kelli: 

www.kellibarthelemy.com

http://www.kellibarthelemy.com

Non-profit in honor of Kelli’s Son, Quintin: www.QsArmy.com

For a listing of all digital courses I offer go to:

https://thegriefguru.teachable.com/

For a FREE Grief Assessment Click Here:

https://thegriefguru.teachable.com/p/grief-assessment?preview=logged_out

Find me on FaceBook: www.facebook.com/thegriefguru

Instagram: @Thegriefguru

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Nothing is as important as surrounding yourself with thinkers. They expand your mind and propel you to use your brain with so much depth and passion. I don’t understand how to live otherwise.

I envision myself retiring in my 80s and spending my days giving talks, writing, and traveling so I can learn more.

I have no desire to acquire things. I want to immerse myself in a wealth of knowledge. I don’t talk latest fashion, or cars, or whatever people talk about. Although I have nothing against those who do.

Let your mind be powerful. Have depth. Think. Use some percentage of your brain on acquiring knowledge. Don’t just exist. There’s more to who you are than your imposed gender roles, and whatever else you waste time on.

Life has so much to offer. There’s so much knowledge out there, go find it. Read at least once a day. Learn something new each day. Take a few minutes to think (not worry) think.
Have at least one friend who has “Depth”. If you don’t already, this is the year to find one.

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Stacey is an incredible woman, who despite the odds, started her journey of entrepreneurship after ending a relationship, going back to school, traveling the world, and sadly losing her younger cousin. The team at Designed Life are incredibly happy to share her story as a woman who found her voice, found herself, and decided to live her dreams.

Who inspired you to start your business AND your WHY:

I remember barely being a flickering spark of myself, after getting out of that relationship – at age 38! I felt so alone, and lost, after being torn apart by his parents because of my nationality and age, dating in secret, and after he eventually told me I’m easy to manipulate. I didn’t see the double life he was living. I wanted someone to stick up for me, to fight for me- blinded by wanting to prove myself and find my worth in him and his family. It all goes back to that time I was 12 years old, and that horrible grade; it was the first time I did poorly on a test. I was used to getting 90% or higher, my own disappointment was no match for how I thought my mom felt about it. I figured she must’ve thought I was stupid; unknowingly, I set out to spend the rest of my years proving I’m not stupid, proving I’m good enough, trying to live up to high standards. Quitting my job to travel around the world to 19 countries for a year, wasn’t enough to prove I’m enough. Nor was graduating from my second bachelor’s degree at the top of my class.

So there I was, picking up, and carefully placing my broken pieces back together. For two years, I rebuilt, reshaped, and relearned who I am. I delved into personal growth, took in all the teachings I could find, attended events, connected with like-minded people, took on a new position at work, and before you know it, I found me again. I realized I don’t need a relationship to give me worth, I don’t need to prove myself to anyone, I am capable, courageous, strong and imperfectly perfect the way I am. But I still longed for more in my life. I knew I had a calling to serve humanity, and didn’t know how or where to start.

It was there – in the dark conference room, in 2017, thousands of miles from home, on the first day, in the second row, right in front of the main speaker, and founder of the organization, in my glory, soaking in every word he said, where my answer came to me. My phone was vibrating off the hook, and when I finally picked it up, and read the words that almost stopped my heart, made me want to burst out crying, and closed in the room around me, I had an instant to make a choice, a choice I had to live with for the rest of my life. Would I stay or would I go? My younger cousin Casey back home had died, she had taken her own life.

It was that moment I decided to stay at the conference, to learn, grow, and become the best version of me! I saw my younger cousin struggle, I saw the darkness she lived in;
I thought, that could’ve been me! I remember those days I was diminished to nothing – I remember thinking I didn’t want to be here anymore. I decided at that moment I was going to go out there and shine my light, so others did not have to live in the darkness Casey lived in!
We don’t have to wait until we get into despair before we change our lives before we see the beauty and importance and possibility in life! That is when I made it my mission to work with women, to empower them, uplift them, help them build confidence, and instill limitless possibility! An empowered woman can change the world!

What mantra do you live by?
“If they can do it, I can do it”

 What mindsets made you successful?
a) I don’t allow myself to believe that anyone is above me, and that I can’t accomplish what others have accomplished. I don’t think there are superpowers that only a chosen few have. I believe we’re all equals and have the same ability to create our dream life, IF we are committed, dedicated, and work for it. I view the accomplishments of others as proof that it can be done!

b) Also, remembering, from my trek up Mount Kilimanjaro, that one baby step at a time will get me there! Slow and steady progress can move us up mountains!

Where does your passion come from?
Dancing, traveling, and people! My passion for traveling has taught me so much about people, perspective, what really matters in life, and seeing the big picture. The majority of this world lives without – are living in poverty, but have the most beautiful outlook on life. They have so little, but are so happy! I’ve learned so much from locals in developing countries I’ve traveled to. It’s so fulfilling and enriching for me to learn about people from all cultures, backgrounds, races, etc., what matters to them, what causes them to behave the way they do, and to understand them. My passion is learning about others, which is a vehicle for me to express and spread compassion and kindness.

What is your superpower/ how do you use it?
Asking really good questions! Most of my life I’ve been told I ask too many questions, and now I can see it as my superpower because I ask questions for a very specific reason – to gain understanding or to help others gain insight. When my clients tell me I’ve asked a question they’ve never been asked before, I take such delight, because, I know it will start the wheels turning, and bring them closer to a breakthrough. We all have the answers inside, we just need some help finding them – and that’s what a well thought out question does!

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Stacey MacKinnon; (Online Program: Confidently You)

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Perfection is an Illusion

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Perfection is an illusion and the enemy of progress.

The constant quest to be perfect, to look a certain way, act a certain way, speak a certain way, have all your ducks in a row, has robbed alot of us our dreams.

We have spent unnecessary hours worrying and focusing on the insignificant. Wasting years and resources in the race for perfection. 

I remember three years ago when I had an idea to start a beverage company, I wasted one year trying to design the logo, website, etc. When infact I could bottle the product and start selling. In 2017, I took the plunge, i started testing the market, sampling the product, reformulating my recipe. Shortly thereafter I started making sales and selling hundreds of bottles to stores. 

Often times we focus on perfecting an idea without going out to hear from the customers, to find out what they want and what they care about. You will soon find out that it’s possible to waste years on perfecting a product just to realize that it isn’t viable or necessary. 

The same with our personal lives. In the world of social media and an endless quest for perfection we can lose our voice in the quest to look like someone else. We can lose our authenticity and value, we can work hard on trying to fit in before pursuing our dreams. Just to realize that we’ve wasted years being unproductive. 

Lately, I share my beliefs on videos that I post on my personal Facebook page, its raw, unfiltered, its me. I wasted years hiding, I had to have makeup, it had to be recorded by a professional etc. When infact I could have shared my thoughts without all of the added pressure. As a food Conversationalists I also share my thoughts about culture and food. It took me years to own that aspect of my journey and put myself out there. As a multitalented and multifaceted woman its easy to get distracted by the worlds definition of perfection. 

I had contents and ideas I had been sitting on for years simply because i was  afraid to live out loud, I was afraid of the imperfection of those ideas.

Most times we worry about inconsequential things. We trap ourselves in a bid to make everything perfect.

One thing you must remember is that nothing and no one is perfect, absolutely nothing.

Perfection is in the eye of the beholder, just like beauty. 

The idea of “if you build it they will come”.. is an illusion that would waste your time.

The idea is for them to come or for you to find them, and then build it. 

The idea isn’t for you to be a size 7 to start recording your journey or thoughts. The idea is to start even as a plus size woman.

The idea isn’t for you to have an European or American accent to seek out public speaking opportunities. The idea is to seek out speaking opportunities just as you are with your voice, intonation, and accent. 

Experience has taught me to no longer waste time on perfectionism but to focus on putting myself out there as my mind directs and not be limited by the illusion of perfection.

Happy New Year

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Mind mapping your way to achieve a strategic goal can do wonders. It’s a great way to map out all the crazy voices in your head. When I was in school for my MBA, we had to do some mind mapping and brainstorming.
I find mind mapping to be a quick way to get your ideas on paper. A feasibility study or business plan is great but the first thing I do when I get an idea or when I am strategizing a new path for an existing organization is to create a simple mind map.
A mind map is a tool that helps you think, gather information/knowledge, and create ideas. Its easy for your brain to easily capture and remember ideas through the use of  mind mapping.
Creating a mind map is easy in this case I created a simple one on a 5 by 7 postcard for by my organization.
The first thing is to place in the middle of that postcard exactly what you are thinking about it.


In this case, Designed Life is considered my central theme. Your topic or central theme can be a title, an idea, subject, a problem, a thought, a project, a business, or personal etc. The next is to create associations or topics, for designed life I had to come up with the list of outlets we currently use or plan to use to express our ideas and share our voice.
The next is the subject focus, since Designed Life is a platform I use to inspire others, mapping this out helps me not to lose focus on subjects we will focus on and not deviate from. I broke those down into topics that focuses on life, entrepreneurship, inspiration, stories, food, spirituality etc.
The next is the growth strategy how do we plan to grow all of the outlets mentioned.
Then to the methods we will use to send out our message which is still similar to the outlet.
The great thing about mind mapping is that you can literally make it out the way you want. It’s in your head.. there’s no specific formula to it. It can be as simple or as elaborate as you want.
Mind mapping is also a great visual think and structure to your ideas or goals.
As we begin to design the life or business we crave for, let’s work on mind mapping and brainstorming our strategies for the new year.

Another mind mapping you can do is more personal. I believe in the “start now philosophy” of not wasting time to get things done. I also share daily on my social media platform.
In the image below you would see my start now strategy which lays out my 3 months, 1 year, 5 years, and lifetime goals. With each of these you can create a second mind map for that specific goal.


In order of priority I focused on the 3 months goal of losing weight. The goal is to lose weight, with that I listed the steps that I would have to take to make this happen.
My goal is to lose 20 lbs in 3 months, but how will I lose 20 Ibs in 3 months? I will need to join a gym but how do I find a gym and when is my deadline to achieve this goal?
The map for my weight loss goal is all mapped out and ready to go. Doing this ensures that I can create an attainable goal and visual think of my personal weight loss journey.
I can also map out my plan for the year 2020. Then list each of those goals then map them out individually. It’s pretty simple, and can take less than 10 minutes. Make sure its measurable, make it personal based on where you are and what you have. Commit to achieving the goals, and make sure you stick to it. I’m rooting for you.
Try it and start now..

P.s. You can use tools like www.canva.com to create a fancy mind map. I didn’t really care much for it. 

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One Size Does Not Fit All

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I came across 3 random post on Facebook: one was about how she conquered the fear of failure within 2years, another about how creating vision boards in the last 30 years has helped him achieve success and lastly, a comic version of how a Year-end review gives you clarity and champions your success in the Year-in-view.

They had different paths and strategies to arrive at the same destination at seperate times.

We have seperate backgrounds, circumstances and experiences. Weigh yours, apply critical thinking and take a shot at what you have strategised.

Below you’ll find a simple but very useful questionnaire as a guide into the next decade. I borrowed a bit of some questions from the comic version of what I had read and added 6 more to help my unique path. You can add more to suit yours too.

  1. What do you want and Why?
  2. What do you have?
  3. What can you do with what you have?
  4. What are the odds against you?
  5. What are you most proud of this year?
  6. What do you mostly regret this year?
  7. What’s the most important lesson you learnt this year?
  8. What do you need to let go of?
  9. What do you need to do more of?
  10. When will you start?

Get a notepad and let’s do this together if you want. I will share my results in March after my holidays.?

#LifesLessons
#StillLearning
#OneSizeDoesNotFitAll
#FindYourPath
#CountdownJustOneDayLeft?
#2019

 

Linda Dooyum Kpum

CEO 1278 Marketplace

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