The opinions and criticisms of others only become nauseating when you have not developed the ability to think on your own, make your own decisions and live on your own terms. No one should have the power to make you do what you do not want to do but you cannot escape being pushed around if you do not know what you want to do in the first place.
You have to be sure of yourself but how can you be sure of yourself if you have not put yourself to the test? Unless you go through a series of processes, you cannot get to a place where you trust yourself and your instincts completely. Trust is not handed down so how do you get there? –time, practice, persistent, plus all your mistakes combined. It takes years to develop this ability but there will be a time when just your instincts will save you and others from a major disaster.
Who else has watched the movie, Sully? It is about a U.S. Airways Pilot, Captain Chesley Sullenberger, who averted a crash on January 15, 2009, when both engines of Flight 1549 failed at 2800 feet. He achieved this not only by depending on the knowledge he had gathered over the years but by trusting his instincts and making a quick- and what would become a lifesaving- decision when he landed in the Hudson River against all odds- a feat no one else had ever achieved. He was later invited to a public hearing by theNational Transportation Safety Board on the accusation of endangering the lives of 155 passengers on board the plane but he stood his ground even when all the evidence presented showed that he could have landed safely if only he had returned to base, La Guardia, when the problem first started.
I watched as he battled fear, uncertainty, and doubt at some point and I understood that it is okay to fear and doubt, it comes naturally when we are faced with certain trauma and it can happen to any one of us but then again, we can rise above it just like this man did because he knew who he was, he knew his worth, he trusted his instincts and he was confident in his abilities. Soon after the rest of the world knew it too and called him a hero.
One day, someone would come from somewhere to demand something of you, it could be something that is just not you and hopefully you would be in a place where you can confidently say, “I think not”- not because of pride but because you have a consciousness of who you are and what you stand for without having to be told or reminded by other people.
Brace yourself and keep in mind that every struggle, hurt, pain, disappointment or rejection you had to go through will lead to that important moment when it will really matter.
You do not have to quit right now because things are hard. Everything has its season. Those mistakes you made are not limitations. There will come a day when you can boldly say you found a better way, you finally made it et cetera but you have to start from somewhere.So do not quit practice, do not skip that class, and do not miss that test. You never know when it would come in handy.If one man could save the world, it could be you.