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​Invest: Actively participate in the life you desire

It’s time to stop being a victim and start being an active member in your own life. Invest in your choices, in people and in your time. Imagine you are driving a car and you feel no need to steer the wheels or engage the gears, would you reach your destination?
What if you don’t know where the destination is?  Does that mean you should leave the car to drive itself? Definitely not! Even when the path is unclear, you still need to make concerted effort to stay on the road.

Stay on the road!

Investing ensures that you do not drift aimlessly. Each time you identify a cause to pursue, a place where your passion is executed, you have a chance to participate in the future. Investing keeps you anchored to a course and helps you stay aligned long enough to determine where the right path is. You can always switch path if you are on the road but that may be hard if you leave your life’s vehicle to just drift and swerve aimlessly.
Invest in what?

This is not just about money and how you spend it.

It’s also about the people you associate with and where you spend the larger chunk of your time. Keep these three in mind:
1. Time

2. People

3. Energy
If you can invest the three listed things above in the right places, you are more likely to come out stronger and better. You have a greater chance of participating in your growth and shape your own future. Living a designed life involves active participation in your own life.


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The Ant Philosophy 1: Resilience is the art of never quitting

One phenomenal thing about ants is their resilience. As a child I was very observant and if I was bored enough I would set traps for working ants (lol). Have you ever tried stopping an ant from going somewhere? Its so fascinating because if you block a path, they look for another one… If you block the new path, they go around it.

They never stop searching for new paths, they never get tired of doing what they’ve been called to do. I use the word Called because the ant was created for a purpose. An ants purpose on earth is defined clearly and the ant itself knows it…that’s why an ant does everything to live that purpose. The worker ant was created to serve the colony so it does that till its death.


The number 1 ant philosophy is to never QUIT. If one path closes, look for another path. If one door closes, surely there’s another one to swing open. That means in your pursuit, in life, in your relationships. its important not to quit.
Ants never quit. If they’re headed somewhere and you try to stop them, they’ll look for another way. They’ll climb over. Sometimes, they’ll climb under. They’ll climb around. They keep looking for another way. What a neat philosophy; to never quit looking for a way to get where you’re supposed to go”~ Jim R.
The essential lesson is your ability to keep going no matter who or what tries to stop you. There are paths everywhere…start searching for those new paths.



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How A Creation Box Can Work For You

Bring to mind a time when you decided that you wanted something in your life; a vacation, a special book, or a household item. Did you notice that things relating to what you were wanting appeared out of nowhere–either you overheard someone talking about it, noticed an advertisement, a billboard or even junk mail? This, my friends, is the power of the Law of Attraction at work. The Law of Attraction states that all forms of matter and energy are attracted to that which is of a like vibration. “Like attracts like.” The thoughts we hold attract similar thoughts and become large masses of thoughts. These thoughts are also called vibrations.

I have been following the teaching of Abraham-Hicks, (one of the teachers of The Law of Attraction) for many years, and have adopted many of the suggestions offered from his work. Here is Abraham’s explanation of vibration.

If you’re wondering what you are vibrating, observe your life. It’s a perfect match. What you are living is what you are vibrating, without exception. So, if you’ve got something that you don’t want, identify what it is within your vibration that is giving it to you. The Law of Attraction is powerful, and whatever you are vibrating, the Universe will match.

One of the powerful tools I use from the Abraham teachings is the Creation Box. A Creation Box is simply a box or container where you store symbols, pictures, or descriptions, of your desires. Your Creation Box can be any size, shape, or color–it is for you to enjoy and have fun with. A Creation Box helps you purify your vibration; in other words, you become more focused on the desire you put in it. Fill your Creation Box with pictures you tear out of magazines, sketches, doodles, or special notes that describe what you want. As you begin to play with your Creation Box, you will be knocked over by the speed and efficiency with which the Law of Attraction responds to the desires you have placed in your box.

Whatever you are focusing on, be it real or imagined, causes you to vibrate–and that vibration is what the Law of Attraction accepts as your point of attraction. The Law of Attraction does not know or care why you are vibrating–it only responds to your vibration. You get more of what you want and you get more of what you don’t want. The Creation Box process helps you to think, feel, and vibrate MORE of what you desire. I’ve been using a Creation Box since 1995, placing into it things that I want while remembering that the key here is not to become attached to how it will come to me.

Recently, a friend of mine noticed my Creation Box in my home and was curious about its purpose and contents. After explaining its purpose, I opened it up to share some of the special things I wanted to manifest. To my delight, I realized that a number of magazine clippings and notes of things I had desired had already come to me!

I hosted a Creation Box building party at my home and each of us created a special box for our dreams and desires. I invite you to prepare your special Creation Box with your friends and family and watch your desires come to you in ways you couldn’t have imagined.

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Financial: The Spend or Save riddle.

Americans usually don’t need to be prodded to spend. Over the last 30 years, Americans have maintained a spending rate far above other industrialized nations. In 2007, consumer spending peaked at slightly above 70 percent of the U.S. Gross Domestic Product (GDP), while it only amounted to 55 percent of the GDP in Germany and Japan [source: Brockman]. – DAVE ROOS

Spending is not much of a problem for some while saving comes naturally to others. The main issue we have is how to decide which decision is best for us at a moment in time. The “Spend or Save Riddle” is commonly a source of headache. It becomes difficult to find the satisfaction we expected from our financial decisions. A lot of us wait for lucky money all our lives, but when it finally happens we don’t know what to do with it. How do you handle those moments when you happen on some profit and there is extra cash in the till?

Are you a Spender or Saver?

“Investment” is the constant buzz words, eventually we all want to be proud owners of investment. The problem is usually that time before we know what to invest in.  Imagine you finally make some huge sales, or your boss doles out bonuses or your long lost Uncle sends in some cash. Do you spend it immediately on your prime activity, or do you hoard it in hopes that you will make a wise investment someday?

It’s easier to be an impulsive when deciding whether to spend of save. Both are driven dependent on each person’s propensity, spending habits  or fear. The fear of missing out on every new thing and availability of credit pushes the unprepared spender to go way above his credit and end up in debt. If you are in the habit of upgrading on particular brand products, spending at a whim may come easily to you.  While the fear of not being able to keep up with economic demands, nudges some of us to extreme hoarding.

Both extremes could be totally unproductive and limiting. They affect your capacity to take financially sound decisions. Hoarding funds with a motive to save makes you feel guilty even when spending on your needs.  It’s important to understand the difference between frivolous spending and necessary spending.

How to Achieve a Balance?

Here are some interesting suggestions. You can actually determine when to spend and when to save by following these simple rules:

  1. Spenders: wait 24 hours: Give yourself permission to spend, but with one condition: wait one full day to see if you still feel the same about that purchase. This eliminates illogical or impulsive spending. “After 24 hours your emotions will have changed. If you still want to make the purchase it will be a logical one, not an emotional one,” says Prof Gillon. Give your spending decision some time, start with 24 hours.
  1. Savers: find a financial role model: Is anxious saving stopping you from enjoying life? Find someone whose financial strategy you admire and see what you can copy. “You’re unlikely to relate to someone at the other end of the ‘saver or spender’ spectrum,” says Prof Gillon, “so just pick someone whose balance seems better than yours.”
  2. Spend to Save: Financial experts say, people without debt should look at the “save or spend” riddle from a different perspective. Instead of using their money to consume, they should use it to invest. When economists talk about investing in this sense, they’re not talking about stocks and bonds. Instead, they’re talking about products and services purchased today that will save you money down the line.The mantra is “spend to save,” and here are some examples:
  • Purchase energy efficient products that would consume less energy.
  • Spending on quality clothing so you don’t have to replace every few months.
  • Do preventive maintenance on your vehicles, especially before the summer and winter months when cars are most susceptible to breakdowns.
  • Buy a nice water filter for your faucet instead of purchasing bottled water.

Its ultimately important that we find a balance between spending or saving. With the right support and knowledge you can live a more fulfilled life and experience financial satisfaction.

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Las Vegas Global threat

LAS VEGAS SHOOTING: What Global threat does to the mind

CNN reports have it that 64-year-old Stephen Paddock, shot at and killed 50 people. This deadly shooting has also left more than 400 others injured in Las Vegas. This occurred on the Vegas strip while the country music festival was on. The Shooter was said to have shot and killed himself inside the Mandalay Bay Hotel room from where he fired the shots.

Our Thoughts and prayers are with the victims and their families. This is threat on a global scale, because the whole world is watching. You may have experienced this first hand; maybe as an eye witness. There are a lot of people also all over the world seeing this threat to humanity. This affects us all.

How is Your Mind?

This question sounds unconventional, we are used to asking “how are you?” The after math of terror attacks are more likely to affect your mind than you can imagine.

Terrorism is a psychological warfare. Terrorists try to manipulate us and change our behavior by creating fear, uncertainty, and division in society. Patrick J. Kennedy

Three things You are going to experience:

  1. Fear
  2. Uncertainty.
  3. Division.

The fear cripples productivity. Now everyone starts to think they might be the next victim, “What if you were the one at that shooting.” These thoughts could potentially make you depressed and fearful. The uncertainty of life becomes glaring and you are wondering if there is any guarantees. Life itself is a risk and only the bold get it to work. The more fearful and uncertain you are, the more you turn against people.

We are designed to work with people, and we are social beings. Terror tears us apart, makes us live in perpetual fear and lose our peace. The question is how is your mind? Are you aware that these subtle signals affect your capacity, and productivity? Do you need to share your fears with someone?


celebrity lifestyle is about your mind

7 Celebrity lifestyle tips on how to be the best version of yourself

I seem to lost count on how many times I’ve read and heard of celebrity marriages failing almost left and right. It seems strange that we often see movie and TV stars as flawless people, living the fairytale life of riches and glamor. I suppose we all have to stop sticking our heads in the clouds and face reality. The reality is that we are all celebrities and we just need to live in that consciousness.

There are many ways to lose your sense of self-esteem regardless of how trivial it could get. You can always develop a whole new perspective to who you are and celebrate yourself. This is what makes you stand out.

So what does it take to be a cut above the rest? 

1. Know your purpose

Are you wandering through life with little direction – hoping that you’ll find happiness, health, and prosperity? Identify your life purpose or mission statement and you will have your own unique compass that will lead you to your truth north every time.

This may seem tricky at first when you see yourself to be in a tight or even dead end. But there’s always that little loophole to turn things around and you can make a big difference to yourself.

2. Know your values

What do you value most? Make a list of your top 5 values. Some examples are security, freedom, family, spiritual development, learning. As you set your goals – check your goals against your values. If the goal doesn’t align with any of your top five values – you may want to reconsider it or revise it.

The number shouldn’t discourage you, instead, it should motivate you to do more than you can ever dream of.

3. Know your needs

Unmet needs can keep you from living authentically. Take care of yourself. Do you have a need to be acknowledged, to be right, to be in control, to be loved? There are so many people who lived their lives without realizing their dreams and most of them end up being stressed or even depressed for that matter. List your top four needs and get them met before it’s too late!

4. Know your passions

You know who you are and what you truly enjoy in life. Obstacles like doubt and lack of enthusiasm will only hinder you, but will not derail your chance to become the person you ought to be. Express yourself and honor the people who have inspired you to become the very person you wanted to be.

5. Live from the inside out

Increase your awareness of your inner wisdom by regularly reflecting in silence. Commune with nature. Breathe deeply to quiet your distracted mind. For most of us city people, it’s hard to even find the peace and quiet we want even in our own home. In my case, I often just sit in a dimly lit room and play some classical music. There’s sound, yes, but music does soothe the savage beast.

6. Honor your strengths

What are your positive traits? What special talents do you have? List three – if you get stuck, ask those closest to you to help identify these. Are you imaginative, witty, good with your hands? Find ways to express your authentic self through your strengths. You can increase your self-confidence when you can share what you know to others.

7. Serve others

When you live authentically, you may find that you develop an interconnected sense of being. When you are true to who you are, living your purpose and giving of your talents to the world around you, you give back in service what you came to share with others -your spirit – your essence. The rewards for sharing your gift with those close to you is indeed rewarding, much more if it were to be the eyes of a stranger who can appreciate what you have done to them.

Self-improvement is indeed one type of work that is worth it. It shouldn’t always be within the confines of an office building, or maybe in the four corners of your own room. The difference lies within ourselves and how much we want to change for the better.

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How to tap into your persuasive ability

According to John Baldoni If you need to make an argument about an issue about which you feel very strongly, don’t use rhetoric. Tell a story. 

He gave an example, and here is it:

Representative Keith Ellison spoke to the press before hearings convened by Representative Peter King to investigate the radicalization of American Muslims in the United States. After making his case about why Muslims were being unjustly singled out by the hearings, Ellison closed his statement with a story about Mohammed Salman Hamdani, a paramedic who perished on 9/11 while trying to rescue those trapped in the Twin Towers. Ellison described how some sought to tarnish Hamdani’s sacrifice by calling attention to his Islamic faith. The story, and Ellison’s emotional delivery, helped make his message powerful.

This example shows how you can make a point without putting people on the defensive. It’s usually hard to look away from your goal for a bit but that’t what you need to do. Don’t be in a hurry to convince people, work on your story.

Why Persuasion is Necessary Skill

There is no career path or position you find yourself that does not require you to persuade others. The amount of belief people place in a path, determines how well it would succeed. If you are in business or at work, you need to be persuasive with your colleagues. At home, there are a lot of decisions that require the cooperation of every member. The more time you spend working on your persuasive ability, the less you spend resolving conflict.

A personal lesson

I remember during my service year, I had a plan to raise money for an orphanage visit. I talked to my boss and others to raise money for the visit, her reply has ever stuck with me. She said “you are the one who had an intention to reach out to orphans for your birthday, just go with the little you are able to raise and if others are interested, they should do the same but don’t expect such from people.” I am just paraphrasing her statements.

You must be willing to accept that most people don’t know your back story and they would need more convincing than you do. Learn to tell stories. Here are simple tips to keep in mind when building your delivery:

  1. Never be in a hurry to tell it all.
  2. Understand your audience.
  3. Determine the core message and present it as early as possible.
  4. Don’t bore people with details they do not need.
  5. Give the story life, use imagery and descriptions.
  6. Personalize your story.
  7. Make the listener feel they are part of the story.

The list continues, but you can work with this seven points listed above. Persuasion is the oil of every process. When it runs dry, the system starts to grind uncomfortably.


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ant philosophy

The Ant Philosophy 1: Resilience is the art of never quitting

One phenomenal thing about ants is their resilence. As a child I was very observant and if I was bored enough I would set traps for working ants (lol). Have you ever tried stopping an ant from going somewhere? Its so fascinating because if you block a path, they look for another one… If you block the new path, they go around it. They never stop searching for new paths, they never get tired of doing what they’ve been called to do. I use the word Called because the ant was created for a purpose.

An ants purpose on earth is defined clearly and the ant itself knows it…that’s why an ant does everything to live that purpose. The worker ant was created to serve the colony so it does that till its death.
The number 1 ant philosophy is to never QUIT… If one path closes… look for another path…if one door closes, surely there’s another one to swing open. That means in your pursuit, in life, in your relationships..its important not to quit.
Ants never quit. If they’re headed somewhere and you try to stop them, they’ll look for another way. They’ll climb over. They’ll climb under. They’ll climb around. They keep looking for another way. What a neat philosophy; to never quit looking for a way to get where you’re supposed to go”~ Jim R.
The essential lesson is your ability to keep going no matter who or what tries to stop you. There are paths everywhere…start searching for those new paths.



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How complaining reflects on your leadership skills

Instead of complaining about things that are not going fine, leaders take a break. You must be confident enough to know when to stop pushing, especially now. That moment when you see that all you do as a leader si complain, that’s when you need to stop. Take a break and check your priorities again or you will only keep struggling with suboptimal results.

“What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.” 
― Maya Angelou

It’s a Sign of Bad Leadership Skills

Some Christian fellowship leaders in the University I attended were known to speak rashly to members.  They sometimes suspend and even exile members or executives for not falling in line. The fellowships were usually affiliated to these student’s home churches so the leaders could get away with such entitled behaviour. Complaining brings out the worst in you.

I was once leading a group of people who had no affiliations to me, they had nothing I could hold them to. If I tried to blackmail them, I would only wake up to a dead group. These guys stuck with me till I graduated. Even though the group is no more functional, they are still friends I can always count on for anything.

I had to realize that my team members had their own separate world views. Regardless of whatever I felt God was telling me to do, these other people are humans too. I knew there is a limit to which people can carry your pain on their head and if you want better results or you want people to follow, then you have to prove to them that its a worthy cause of which it must also align with their goals in life.

Take a deep breath

I work with a team of writers now for my writing platform. Some left and new ones joined. I have provided content for websites and businesses with a team of other writers and even when I knew I was going to pay these writers, I still had to respect their separate situations.

You being emotional about anything could get you into deeper trouble than you expect. When tension is high and emotions are running riot, be careful the way you see other people. Be careful the tings you say and how you interact with people. It is those times that show the true nature of who you are. This week is another opportunity to represent yourself as a better person worthy of respect. This changes everything for you, your confidence grows and you would be more focused on developing yourself than seeking undue attention from others.

tough times and bouncing back

Times are hard, so what do you do to bounce back up?

Life happens. It doesn’t matter how positive an attitude you have or how balanced and centered you are, there are going to be times when you are knocked down. Times when your carefully organized life is turned upside down and you get knocked on your rear end. Life happens.

You will no doubt experience serious illness in either yourself or someone close to you. You may be challenged with the loss of a loved one, a divorce or perhaps the loss of a job or any number of situations that will leave you feeling like you were kicked in the stomach.

Let’s face it. These things will happen. They’re part of life and no matter how you try to explain them away with the idealist, “everything happens for a reason” quote, they hurt. A lot! They hurt at the very core of your being. The pain begins in your heart and radiates throughout your entire being. Repeating positive phrases does not make it stop hurting.

What You Should Expect in these times

In times like these, you’re going to feel down, even depressed. You probably feel anger or some other manifestation of your pain. Whatever you’re feeling, it’s ok. It’s ok to feel hurt, sad, angry or whatever your true feelings are. You cannot deny pain any more than can deny fear. The only way through either of them is to give yourself permission to feel the feeling.

The question is not whether or not you will feel down. The question is for how long will you stay in this state?

The difference between people who get through life’s challenging moments, regardless of the seriousness, and those who are immobilized by the events is what I call the “Bounce factor.”

How quickly can you bounce back?

Of course, the severity of the event will have a lot to do with the time it will take you to get past the pain and on with your life.

Take the example of two people being downsized from their high technology jobs, something that is becoming a natural occurrence these days. One, whom we’ll call John, is floored by the news of his dismissal. He expresses his pain by becoming angry at the company, his co-workers and the system in general. He spends his days telling anyone who’ll listen, about his “problem.” Usually from a bar stool.

As he sees it, his life is ruined and he’s blaming everyone for his troubles. People who react like John spend weeks, even months, wallowing in despair until, if they’re fortunate, someone close to them convinces them to seek professional help.

Mary, on the other hand, reacts much differently. Although she has gone through the same experience as John and has pretty much the same issues like living expenses, etc., she chooses to react differently.

After a brief period of feeling a loss of self-esteem, self-pity, and anger, Mary decides to get back in the game. She begins contacting her network of colleagues and co-workers, avails herself of the outplacement services her former employer offered everyone and starts actively looking for a new position. In a short time, Mary finds her “dream job” with an exciting new company.

While both people in our hypothetical example had the same experience and both went through a period of hurting, the time each allowed themselves to remain in that disempowering state was vastly different. While John remained “stuck” in his problem, Mary handled her loss and moved on with her life.

This is the key.

It’s not whether life occasionally puts you into a tailspin, it’s how long you remain there.

When something devastating happens to you, allow yourself some time to grieve your loss, however, don’t allow yourself to get stuck there. Take some action. Join a support group, talk about your feelings with a trusted friend or your spiritual advisor. If necessary, seek professional help.

In the case of a job loss, perhaps you want to take some time to re-evaluate your career goals. You may even consider a change in fields. When you’re ready, you can begin networking and making new contacts. Attend social or church events. Call people you know. Do something!

One of the most important things to remember in high-stress situations is not to allow yourself to isolate. While spending some time alone is normal, even necessary, isolation can be dangerous and should be avoided at all costs. Get out and be with people as soon as possible. As a friend recently reminded me, “life is for the living.” It’s important to get back to your life. In time, the pain will pass.